Tips for Fussy Face Child

Not infrequently happens, the
little old to be so fussy toddler.
To the extent that in doing
everyday activities he always
began with the cry first. There
are several causes that are
categorized as often so the
originator of fussiness in
children (see box). In addition,
the toddler fussiness some are
associated with temperament.
Generally, children's
temperaments were divided
into 3, ie easy, difficult, and
slow (slow to warm up). To find
out what our child
temperament, parents can
already see the characteristics
of easy, difficult, and this slow
since the child is still classified
as tempered easy bayi.Anak
very adaptable in the face of
new situations, regular sleep,
including waste water. Instead
of children classified as difficult
temperament would be
difficult to adapt to the harsh
reaction when introduced to
new environments.
While the children are classified
as slow tempered takes a
certain time period to adjust.
Usually after feeling
comfortable, he will be able to
quickly adjust. Well, generally
the children are classified as
fussy-tempered children are
slow to warm up until hard.
CAUSE FUSSY & HOW ABOUT
IT
1. PHYSICAL CONDITION ARE
NOT COMFORTABLE
Children are sleepy, hot, cold,
hunger, thirst generally
become fussy.
Parent Attitudes:
Find out the cause of "fussy,
and solve problems. Generally,
if caused by physical problems,
the child will be back soon
cheerful if he's back
comfortably.
2. LOOKING FOR ATTENTION
Sometimes the fussy toddler
just to seek attention. This
often occurs because parents
generally give much attention
to him when she was just fussy.
While the time being to be nice
little less attention. As a result,
the toddler already "learned"
that his wish will be fulfilled by
whining, crying. There's even an
up to tantrums.
Parent Attitudes:
* Do not give special attention
to when the fussy toddler. If
you need help do not meet his
request so that he realizes that
the way that has been done is
not correct. This action can be
at once to teach her toddler
self-control.
* Encourage the toddlers to
communicate, to say that the
way the child did wrong. For
example, "If you say it, crying,
Mother does not know what
you want. Try to calm down, a
good way. "
* Make it a habit to pay close
attention to the child at all
times, especially when he was
being nice. Form of attention
was quite a sentence like,
"Mother proud, lo, as Tia is not
difficult to bathe."
3. WANT TO SHOW strength
Toddlers have a tendency to
reject. He really just wanted to
show that he also had the desire
or opinion. So no need to be
surprised if, in many respects
the toddlers often refused and
preferred his own choice. When
his wish is not fulfilled, it causes
it to be fussy. Moreover, many
parents who actually acted to
impose the will because he felt
he was the most eligible of his
son. The more it becomes the
toddler fussiness.
Parent Attitudes:
Do not force your wishes. Try
to berstrategi cast by artificial
selection, the choices that still
have the same ultimate goal.
Through this way, children are
expected to as well as learn to
make decisions so as to foster
self-confidence as well. For
example, if we refuse the
invitation shower, try to
catapult the offer, "sister
taking a shower with warm
water or cold water?" Through
this offer, the goal remains to
achieve a bath and child can
take the decision of the two
options do not seem so forced.
4. HURT feelings
Usually this happens when the
toddler runs out scolded. Tail
he will fuss and often without
consciously utter words that
are hurtful, like, 'I hate you.
"The phrase was actually just
to show his deepest feelings.
However, to hear a greeting
that many parents are hooked
and behind the scolding.
Parent Attitudes:
Do not fall for it. Embrace her
toddlers and say soothing
phrases like, "Mama darling
really, lo, the same brother. Her
crying was so tired later on.
"With a hug and soothing words
will make the toddler feel
uncomfortable. Feeling
comfortable and protected,
will not necessarily make the
toddlers become fussy
prolonged.
5. INABILITY to do something
Parents often unwittingly
demanding his son to be able to
do something with the size of
an adult. In terms of eating, for
example, parents sometimes
unwittingly asked the toddler
to eat quickly and neatly, even
though the toddler has not
been able to do so. Tail, to
cover up the inability of it, the
toddler even so fussy.
Parent Attitudes:
Do not force children to do
something that is not capable
of doing. To spur the spirit as
well as build self-confidence,
give the award even though the
ability to achieve extremely
small. Example, "Well, yes Adek
like to eat vegetables ...
vegetables stay slightly tuh."
In essence, the award is given
only when the child is able to do
something positive.
5 POSITIVE ATTITUDE
fussiness PREVENT PARENTS
1. Positive Thinking
Parents should not easily
discouraged when you see the
slow-tempered toddler for
example pertained to warm up,
which takes a long time to
adjust. Grow only positive
thoughts that I can shape it into
a good boy. With this belief, the
child-parent interactions
formed will undoubtedly good.
2. Not succumbing to the child's
fussiness
The way parents interact with
the toddlers can affect
attitudes. For example, the
toddler who has a tendency to
be a growing fussy fussy fussy
when understood can be used
as a weapon for himself.
Moreover, when parents always
meet or beat when she was
being fussy. However, if the
parent is not easy being soft
with fussy attitude that serve
as weapons, then maybe he
does not become fussy because
he has experienced that the
way it is not an effective way
to ask. So the true interaction
will affect the attitude of the
child.
3. No labeling
Labeling of the child actually
will cause it to be not confident.
It may even be gradually he
became a child like that labeled
for this. For instance, given the
labels of the fussy and whiny.
It may be that children choose
to be cranky all the time.
4. Focus on the attitudes of
children
To build positive attitudes of
children, catch-basahlah sweet
attitude and give awards. Do
not just give attention when
the child is behaving badly. For
example, "Gee, today you're
okay, deh." While showing one
thumb in her direction. It can
build self-confidence of
children.
5. Not compare compare
Every child has its advantages
and disadvantages. The task of
parents is to maximize each
child's strengths and minimize
weaknesses. It can foster a
sense of trust of the toddler
that she does have privileges.
Sri Rahayu Utami. Illustrator:
Pugoeh
Expert Consultant:
Dra. Rozamon Anwar, Psi., MSi.,
from SD Fajar Hidayah, Cibubur,
East Jakarta
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